Everyone makes mistakes, but there are several ways to stand up and move on
“Don’t judge me by my successes, but by how many times I’ve fallen and got up again.”
– Nelson Mandela
This simple sentence explains a lot, beautifully. Think about the moments when you have learned and grown the most. Was it the times when you achieved something easily, or was it times when you faced challenges and maybe even failed?
Celebrating success feels good, but learning from failure is when actually growing. This is probably more important than success itself. Few people appreciate it, however.
Although you hear and read that success stories are full of failures, it is hard to digest failures when they actually knock on your door. Failure is often associated with psychological distress, but it is up to us whether we allow ourselves to be influenced by the failure or learn from it and move on.
Five pointers
Failure is inevitable: The first and most important step is to understand that failure is inevitable and to recognize the undeniable wisdom of learning that it entails. As Barack Obama said, “The real test is not whether you are avoiding this mistake because you are not. It is whether you let yourself become hardened, or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you want to persevere “. Let your failure take effect, take it positive, and half of your work is done.
Be compassionate to yourself: Feel your feelings and give them time to pass. You will definitely feel bad, but don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t let these emotions stay inside you for too long and give them the power to bring you down.
What went wrong?: The next step is to analyze the process and determine what went wrong. This may not always be possible independently. Therefore, seek external help if necessary. Write everything down and analyze it point by point until you understand what you could have done at each step to avoid the situation.
Do not blame others and circumstances: Often times, you will feel that circumstances are not in your favor or that some outside influence has had a negative impact. Channel your efforts so that you don’t let them get in the way.
Ready, Set, Go: Now is the time to act. The setback made it clear to you what works and what doesn’t. Draw up your strategy with all your understanding and learning.
Disclaimer: The views expressed in this article are personal
The writer isan IIT Delhi alumnus and a Harvard HCONF scholar. smarthveer@gmail.com.
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